Depending on the day, and the infertile person hearing your news, the reaction to your news will vary. Some infertile women will disappear out of your life forever, and some will be overly involved in your pregnancy.
If you have announced your news, and rightly so!, to an infertile friend, who has shared their tough experience with you, then you can be sure of an interesting journey through your own pregnancy.
Be mindful that there will be days that you will want to share your stories, and your news, (and you should!!!), that your infertile friend will cry. There will be days when your friend interrupts you and has to leave, or get off the phone, quickly, and what you can do on those days is let your friend go, and then the next time you are about to share, ask if today or the moment is right for sharing your news.
There are plenty of people who will not cry over hearing your news and stories, and some days and moments your infertile friend will be that person for you, but be prepared that there will be days when your news is going to drive your infertile friend into the deepest depression, and they just can't, and don't want, to hear your stories and news.
Be patient.
We are trying our best to hold ourselves together, but there are moments when it is just too much to handle.
One of us, Anne, even got up in the middle of a staff meeting, recently, and moved across the room, in order to escape the hoard of pregnant women who sat at her table. In the initial moments of the meeting Anne was doing fine, but then, it hit, and she had to move. Everyone stared at her, but she didn't care, she just COULD NOT sit with those women a moment longer.
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