#12 You just need to relax.

Have you ever been upset about something and somebody tells you "you need to calm down" or "are you mad?"

That seething sensation that runs from your eyebrows to your socks is the same seething feeling an infertile feels when told to "relax".

Trying to get pregnant, for someone who does not really have to try, is relaxing. But for an infertile person, it is NOT relaxing AT ALL! It is frustrating and being told to relax is one of the least helpful things you can say.

What you can say is "that sounds tough. Do you want to talk about it?"